Motherhood | Enjoy the Season You're In

|This post appeared first on Moonstruck La Vie En Rosé on January 6, 2020|

I never knew motherhood would feel quite so… what’s the word I’m looking for? Chaotic! There’s so much to stay on top of just to keep the ship afloat. From diapers that need changing, to playdates, and the never-ending piles of laundry. It seems as if our family is always on the move. And, to be honest, most days I feel like I’m just running in circles to keep up with the routine.

When I get overwhelmed or feel trapped in the moment, I often find myself wishing for the future. Days when the girls will be more self reliant, for uninterrupted trips to the bathroom or the ability to turn my back for longer than a few minutes without worry. Until recently…

This Season of Motherhood.

Until I realized that I was wishing away the precious moments that I have with my girls. Moments that I once prayed for. I knew I had to challenge myself to stay present and find joy in this season.

Don’t get me wrong, its tough to find the magic in every moment. For instance, tonight I gave my daughters a bath, put the best oils in the diffuser, played some late night jazz music to calm them down, and let them soak and relax. I mean, I would kill for the set up they had at bath time. When all was said and done, and I settled in for snuggles, one of my girls wiped a booger on my face….

To say I was caught off guard would be an understatement…I mean, who does that?!

In difficult moments I try to take myself out of the situation. I take a deep breath, and try to hold onto the good from that day. And, remind myself that one day I will look back on this time fondly. Most likely in the midst of a new season of hardships, and tell myself how easy everything once was.

Its usually the hard, messy days that make us appreciate the good moments even more. Like the days when the girls profess their love for one another without being prompted. Or, when the word of the day is “yes” instead of “NO!”.

Go With the Flow.

Sometimes we put so much pressure on ourselves. As moms we think we have to do everything perfectly for our little ones in order for them to have the best lives possible. That simply is not true. If we allow ourselves to step outside of our expectations of what the perfect mother is, if we can relax and just be present…we can be the mother our kids need us to be. And that is enough.

I challenge you to enjoy the ride, enjoy this season for what it is because the truth is, your kids don’t need you to be perfect, they just need you. The journey of motherhood not only shapes the lives of our little ones but pushes us to grow in ways we never imagined possible.

Surrender to this season. Accept the bad with the good. And when everything seems to be going sideways, trust yourself. You’ve got this!

If you are going through a particularly challenging season of motherhood, just remember it is just that…a season. Once you have everything figured out, something is bound to change again. It usually does. For some reason that always threw me for a loop as a new mom.

And, another thing, please try to remember that even on the days it does not feel like it; you know, the ones that seem to run together? You are loved, and appreciated more than you could ever imagine by the tiny humans that more likely than not, see you as the amazing mom that you are.

Until next time,